I used to make lists. I’d write them down on a notepad by the phone in the kitchen. I’d cross stuff off when I’d got things done. There would be the short-term stuff (buy milk) and the medium-term stuff (finish knitting project) and then the long-term stuff (get a promotion). I don’t write lists anymore, but if I did, the entries would be different. They’d look a little like this:
Play trains with Milin.
Spend time with Jasmin on her playmat.
Try to get Milin to eat some vegetables.
Don’t forget we have a playdate.
Go to the park.
Read Milin his new tractor book.
Give Jasmin a bath.
Show Milin the moon.
Or, if I look at life in a different way – my list without very-important-seeming entries, would look a little like this:
Play trains with Milin. (Concentrate on developing motor skills during track building, and practising colours when pushing trains.)
Spend time with Jasmin on her playmat. (Introduce shapes, colours, and interesting sounds.)
Try to get Milin to eat some vegetables. (Impress upon him the importance of a balanced diet.)
Don’t forget we have a playdate. (Recap the concept of sharing.)
Go to the park. (Practise kicking the ball with Milin and work on balance and running.)
Cuddle Jasmin. (Help baby feel secure in the world and know she is loved.)
Read Milin his new tractor book. (Recap animal vocab. Encourage imagination and story-telling.)
Give Jasmin a bath. (Bonding time with baby, and starting to introduce a night-time routine.)
Show Milin the moon. (Bonding time with Milin, and helping him answer his questions about the world)
And there you have it. My days might not look like much. They might look like I’ve got nothing to do but play football with a one-year-old and sit on the sofa cuddling a three-month-old. But, when I think about it and look at things from a different angle, I’m doing the most important things I can think of. I’m spending time with my children. I’m making them happy and I’m letting them know they are safe and so-much-loved. I don’t need a list to remind me to do those things.