There is more in my life to be thankful for than I could list. Look:
It’s a blurry, hurriedly snapped shot of Milin and Jasmin. They’re not looking at the camera or paying me any attention, because they’re so busy making mischief together. They’re laughing, loudly. I think you can almost tell. This is how they spend much of their time. Making each other laugh. Being best friends.
In the moments before I took this crooked, fuzzy, photo I realised I was sitting on the carpet mesmerised by how much fun they were having. They were, you could tell by their laughs, ridiculously happy. I snatched my phone to catch their joy.
When I looked at the photo later I once again realised how thankful I am to have two healthy, happy children. There is so much about our life that isn’t perfect, but there is also so much about it that is.
And then something made me think of the current Facebook game to list three things a day for three days that you are thankful for. A wonderfully lovely friend thought of me a few weeks ago and tagged me to take part. I did, for one day only. Which, according to the unwritten rules, is getting it wrong.
I looked at this photo of Milin and Jamsin just after I took it and wondered whether I should start my three days again, starting with this shot, and writing how thankful I am they are so happy and healthy.
I decided not to.
I only played the Facebook game for one day – but not because I forgot to continue, and not because I couldn’t think of three things every day. No, there were other reasons.
There is so much in every day that I have to be thankful for. If I was to sit down and think about it at the end of each day though, I’d struggle to narrow down my list to three points. I don’t want to cut out the rest of the good stuff. And I also don’t want to ignore the bad.
There are also a whole lot of things in each day that I don’t want to sing to the world about. There is a whole lot about each day that I want to cry about and stamp my feet about and whinge about because life is so bloody unfair really, isn’t it? That’s not the kind of list you want to see in your Facebook feed though, I’m guessing.
I’m not writing a list of three things every day because I don’t want to airbrush my days into a few neat bullet points which tell you all how happy I am about life. (I am, by the way, generally happy about most of it.) Instead, I’ll keep posting status updates telling you how crap it is that Jasmin is teething. And I’ll keep tweeting about my utter frustration that Milin won’t go to sleep. I’ll keep Instagraming drunk photos too, just in case you haven’t seen enough glasses of wine through a soft filter this evening. And I might occasionally Pin something too, but I’m usually not perfect enough to remember to aspire to pretty things or a more stylish existence.
Telling you three things about my day that I’m thankful for would leave out a hundred other good things. It would also leave out a hundred other bad things that I’m not thankful for, and I probably just want to forget about.
So I’m not playing the game. I’m just not into shouting only about the good stuff. But if you are, ignore me and keep it coming – I love seeing what has made you happy today.